Sometimes people want the world to think that their life is better or more exciting than it really is. For example, there is a member of my family who is having a hard time in her life with her third marriage. She outright stated that she purposely makes her life seem perfect on Facebook although in real life it is far from what she wants it to be. While those who live close to her realize that her life is, in many ways, shattered, family members and friends who live far away see her life as being something to envy. In short, many of those who view her Falsebook profile are only seeing a false life that has been, in short, made up.
They are seeing a life that exists only in the deepest sanctums of her imagination. And they believe it is reality.
Many people live double lives on and off of Facebook. I found that, when I used to be a user of the site, that my life often seemed more exciting on Facebook. I would sit back and ask myself how others must view my life. It made me feel good for a while, knowing that those who I knew in the past and generally no longer talked to that much probably thought I was living an amazing life. Although I am very happy with my life, it is not all glamor. For example, while I do travel very often, I oftentimes stay in places that many people would probably never set foot in. Yet, I would rarely show those places when I had a Facebook profile. Most people, I found, were envious of my life, as if it was something unattainable. I realized that I did not like people thinking this way about me, but I found it almost impossible to not live a double life on Facebook.
Most people want to be viewed in a positive light. It is very easy to be viewed this way when you are twisting and morphing a Facebook profile. Unlike real life, which is full of challenges and ordeals, one can paint their life in any color they choose while on the kingpin of (a)social networking. While it may be very challenging to have a perfect marriage, one can create such a thing at the push of a button on Facebook. No wonder many people would rather live their lives in front of a computer instead of in the big bad real world that exists just beyond the screen.
But living one's life on a computer comes at a cost. First, it is incredibly addictive. Second, when a person spends an inordinate time in the fantasy world of Facebook, real life issues invariably emerge. It is not uncommon to see people gaining weight and encountering serious health problems because they neglect their bodies, instead opting for the computer. While one posts about their double life they may find that they are instead ignoring their real life. Many ignore their families, friends, skills, career aspirations, and dreams. Sure, you can pretend to live your dreams on the internet, but it will never result in you actually achieving them.
Unplugging yourself and staying off of Facebook is the hardest part. Many people get to the point where they can deactivate the beast, but it's not coming back that most fail at. Even I have battled the want to go back to the site that the world is obsessed with. It is only through reminding myself of what my life was like when I was glued Facebook that makes me stay away. We are told we are sinister or somehow unsavory for not being on Facebook. Yet, that is not true. Do you see the biggest creators and achievers in the world glued to Facebook? Facebook is a pacifier for the masses, nothing more. It is the biggest waste of time in the modern world (and, in the end, it is truly a waste). When people can not go a series of minutes without checking the site, you know there is a problem.
Don't get swept up living a double life on Facebook. Instead, resist the temptation to spend your life off of the site at all costs. You are not a bad person if you don't use Facebook. You are not somehow unsavory or socially devious just because you realize that there is a real world beyond the computer. Don't give into the hype or peer pressure. A life without Facebook is the optimal life. Many of those who say otherwise have not lived a life free of Facebook in years.