Friday, May 18, 2012

Communication in the Facebook Age

Today the Facebook IPO comes out, an overvalued investment that is sure to make some people richer and a lot of others poorer.  I will say right now, Facebook is NOT worth $100 billion.  Facebook, it seems, is trying so hard to be the only way in which people communicate and sadly, for many families (some who are obsessed) it is working.  If you are not on Facebook, don't expect to be contacted.  Lucky for us, I think the day will come where Facebook will become like AOL, a once overvalued investment that eventually becomes correctly valued.  And if society wishes to progress past this point, Facebook will have to cease to become an obsession.

I also think that Facebook is making people's communication skills become worse.  In a day and age with so many ways in which people could communicate with each other, one would think that people would have better communication skills.  I am realizing that this is not the case.  In fact, I am noticing that people's communication skills are seriously lacking.  In fact, I have noticed that some who people I know have lost almost every ability to communicate with each other.  It's quite scary, because, communication is something that is central to a well developed society.  Yet so many are lacking, and I think that Facebook is part to blame.

In the past few years I have heard a lot of people saying they want to be closer to others, make friends, and want to have better relationships, yet they give no effort.  A relationship, many feel, is something that is built an fostered merely through Facebook.  If you are not on Facebook, you are left out.  And I am starting to realize that my wife and I are going to be left out of a lot of some of the relationships with others unless we sign back up, and we are not going to.  Further, I have heard that some people in my life are actually angry that I left Facebook, as if I had a type of duty to be on the site!  Can you honestly believe that?  They are angry at me for having deactivated my account, as if by leaving Facebook I have left them.  But, they have shown me that they can't communicate with out it, and it makes me honestly wonder, is it worth trying any longer?

I am sure there are many people out there who are sick of wondering why people say they want a relationship but don't do their part to foster a relationship -- a real relationship. People complain that they have no friends or lose friends all the time. I know why though, they don't put in the work. They will NEVER have close relationships with people if they can't do their own part. How hard is it to answer a text message? It's a shame, because there are some people we have not seen in over five years and I don't feel that they even want to be visited.  Yet, these same people claimed to have 'missed us so much' while we were on Facebook. Would have they answered if I put a status update on Facebook, or wrote on their wall, or poked them?  I don't know for sure, but my guess is they likely would have.

You would think that in this day and age with cell phones, social networking, and the other "advanced" ways to communicate everywhere, people would be good at communicating. But, paradoxically, many are awful at it. Facebook and similar sites have caused so many to become so self-absorbed that they don't even care, and it's just rotten.


  1. When I left Fb I found that the most disgusting thing was that 'ground noise' in your head, I mean there is always something to check, to say, to comment, to link, to share... It literally kills our peace of mind, making us checking every five minutes and feeling like we've been missing a lot of things if we didn't check recently.
    So we spend a lot of time checking and re-checking statuses updates and time goes away... And nobody gets back in time!

    Fb is a waste of time because it's planned to be a waste of time!

    This is crazy!

    PS. Good posts man, I really enjoy reading this blog!

  2. Completely agree with you, fb is an addiction. I never created fb account, as I have already experienced wasting days on other social networking sites. Your post make me feel proud that I am not there on any social networking site.

  3. This blog is excellent. By using Facebook, I found that I was reducing my personality to binary code. I was posting pictures, videos, wall posts and statuses that presented a perfect version of me that was inaccurate. People of Facebook are not their true selves. They are their cyber-selves which in no way reflects their offline personalities. We are far more interesting than one's and zero's. This is an article written by Zadie Smith, the English novelist. It is a review of the film The Social Network and is also a critique of Mark Zuckerberg and Facebook as a whole. This article is the reason I deleted my Facebook account. I would encourage everyone to do the same.

  4. I'm just happy that I haven't been sucked into this whole facebook vortex then - I'm more of a letter person anyway. There's just so much more personality in it than a post/text/tweet or whatever... You know, I'm starting to believe what someone said... that there will come a time when humans won't even need to speak to each other face to face anymore. It's sad really. How sterile.

  5. Our unemployment: traded on the stock market. WTF is this country.

  6. Thank you for putting my feelings into words.

  7. And what about that crazy old feeling: Is she posting the lyrics of that song because she is sending me a secret message? She was never very good at expressing her emotions and I let myself being sucked by her confusion. I'm SO glad I left all that behind. I think Facebook enhances that type of behaviour (both hers and mine)and I'm so better off now.

    Great post!