Tuesday, June 12, 2012

Are People Getting Tired of Facebook?


Sometimes people search my blog, asking: Are people getting tired of Facebook?  Others wonder if Facebook is becoming less popular.  It is hard to tell exactly if Facebook is losing its luster with the world, but I would venture to guess that like all things, Facebook was exciting at first, and as time passes, it becomes 'old hat'. 

What were your thoughts when you first began using Facebook?  Mine went something like "it will be great to find some of my old classmates.  They are sure going to be impressed when they see the awesome things I have accomplished with my life!"  Some people may wonder if their old friend who was a trouble maker in the classroom is now a troublemaker in the jail.  Maybe that hot girl that you liked is all settled down with a bevy of children.  Maybe she is not as pretty as she once was?  And what about uncle Carl, does he have a Facebook too? 

Recently, Care2.com ran an article about Facebook charging for special features.  The Article stated:

Facebook has indeed started to test a “pay to promote” tool in New Zealand: To give an item posted on Facebook a better chance of being seen by family, friends and others, users can pay a small fee to promote it. The highest price that users are being charged is about $2.00, notes the BBC. A Facebook spokesperson would not provide additional information about whether the test would be extended to other places or when will end.

"It's OK, Facebook won't be around forever"
Would you pay $2.00 $7.00 to have your posts have a better chance of being read by your family or friends?  Should a person have to pay to have their family or friends take notice of what they have to say?!  I found this thought to be crazy.  I was not the only person.  (Edit: this "feature" has since been implemented in the United States as well as most countries in which Facebook is terrorizing with its presence).

In fact, scanning through the comments, I noticed that many people did not use Facebook and that many were appalled at the idea of paying to have your comment be better noticed.  In fact, this shows me that Facebook is becoming more desperate to be the king of the (a)social networking world.  There are many people who remember MySpace and how at one time almost everyone had a MySpace account.  Some people still do.  I recently remembered that I even made an account for my now deceased pet a few years ago.  In fact, many of my friends have Facebook accounts for pets and even characters on video games.  However, the reality is that many of those who I speak with are stating that they don't really see the point of Facebook any longer.  Even one individual, who has at least three accounts on Facebook that she used to use consistently, told me that she is thinking of leaving Facebook (I hope she does).  The truth is, for many Facebook no longer has the grand allure that it once held.  In other words, Facebook is losing its popularity and, there is no doubt that it will eventually be almost forgotten.

In one article that I recently read, an analyst predicted that Facebook will disappear by 2020.  Of course, there is no way to say for certain if he is right or wrong.  But, I believe that there is much truth in his prediction.  Can you really still see society hooked on Facebook for another 8 years?  I can't.  Even if Facebook is huge today, that does not mean that it will be huge in the future.  Technology changes faster than ever, and there is a good chance that something new and fresh will be invented that will replace Facebook, and hopefully (a)social networking as a whole, for good.

Is Facebook losing popularity?  I sincerely hope so.  Only time will tell.  I am interested in what you think.  Does Facebook still hold a presence in your life, your friends and families lives, or is it becoming less and less noticeable in your day to day life? 

30 comments:

  1. No, people are as obsessed as ever. They take it literally, compete and compare with one another and use it as the be all and end all of relationships. I have missed out on 2 baby showers, a birthday party and a WEDDING because I am not on facebook so didn't receive a "mass event invitation". I was never personally contacted to attend any of these things. I have "lost" friends by not being on facebook. Is it really losing though? If you can't personally invite me to your wedding, I\m not so sure

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  2. I agree with the above comment. People compare each other with themselves, and compete in every part of their life. Likewise, I have been left out of many events with friends, relatives, and co-workers because I do not have a Facebook profile.

    I think that many people can't see beyond Facebook and don't realize that not everyone is on there. Then they wonder why you were not at the wedding or at the baby shower. As if you shunned them!

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  3. I'm really sorry that happened to you too. It's really sad, and pure laziness. The upside though is you become closer with your REAL friends, because you know they have to actually personally email or phone you to invite you to something, so there's no doubt that it's just a "facebook relationship"

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  4. I totally agree with you. You remember what Karl Marx once said? "Religion is opium for the people", nowadays we can say that a-social networks are opium. How many of us said "Ok, just a few minutes on fb" and then the day ran out?

    I think a lot of people would like to drop fb, and is tired (for the hundreds of reasons you say in your blog), but there are two things preventing them:

    1. facebook is necessary, even tv commercials have the fb logo at the end, or the last words are "for more infos follow us on fb", every billboard has the fb logo, hundreds of sites that require passwords allow you to use fb account credentials in order to easily log in... etc.
    (Question: would you say something about this on your blog?)

    2. it is a passive hobby, you need just to seat and log in and the journey thru others' life begins.

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  5. I joined FB to share ideas and learn new things, and to follow people who have hobbies, careers, etc. doing things that also interested me. Instead, what I received was constant "LOOK AT ME!" "SEE WHAT I BOUGHT!" "THIS IS WHERE WE WENT OUT TO DINNER!" updates, as well as discovering some members of my family had gotten engaged or were expecting babies before they even announced it privately. A friend of mine was absolutely livid to learn via a FB status update that his brother had gotten engaged - all before telling his family first. Photos of plates laden with food at home or out to dinner, pictures of people I don't even know, routine status updates quoting movies and song lyrics...really? This is the best FB can do? My advice? Ditch Facebook and start making some real excitement in your life. Facebook is for people who want others to think they're just as important as they themselves think they are.

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    1. Eloquently spoken...

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    2. Right on...you said it all.

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  6. I completely agree with Tina. Such a vehicle for narcissism, and no one cares. Facebook just allows them to believe that people do. Ive heard of that too, people finding out their granddaughter is pregnant or sister got engaged via facebook. And honestly, no one gives a FLYING F#$% how cute you think your kids are or how many craps they took today.

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  7. I couldn't agree more! I finally had to delete FB entirely because I was sick of the adults flaunting their ugly children and debt-ridden homes/vacations. It's pathetic. Do you really need the validation of acquaintances from High School? I knew a girl that was flaunting her upper-middle class lifestyle for months while her "dream boat" doctor fiance was off screwing around behind her back. Do yourself a favor and shut that crap off, it is the biggest lie of the century!

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  8. All of the above comments are from people who don't have a life interesting enough to share.... pure lames, haters. My advise is to stop hating on facebook and get a life. obviously your probably Ugly, Anoying, and plain uninteresting so you blame Facebook because people who like there lives are proud enough to share with the people they love and who love them. So PLEASE get a life and stop hating on Facebook!!!

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    1. Spoken like a true narcissist! How sad that we can't all be as beautiful or as fascinating as you obviously believe you are. Is the idea that you actually have to be either of those things to be on facebook? I hear the sound of 'whooshing' as the whole message here goes 'over your head'!

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  9. I'm sorry you're so insecure about your choices that you must seek to validate them and hope that others continue to do the same so you may still see your choices as functional.

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  10. Facebook is nothing but drama!

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  11. you know, I partially agree with what people have been saying - so,

    1) yes, FB is often used by people who like to show off, like in a restaurant "let's take pictures of the food and us eating (so that people will know how cool we are)" and the same thing with travels and showing off children and diplomas and what not ...

    but on the other hand,

    2) the real strength of FB is that it allows you to get updated on the lives of people who are perhaps only peripherally related to you, or perhaps those who have drifted out of your life for a while

    so I don't entirely write off FB but I am going to try in the future to only check it like once a week or so and spend less time on it - because that is time I could spend doing more important stuff, you know.

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  12. I realized today that facebook was not just a waste of time (which i can live with), but is also a negative influence on my quality of life. I spend a good deal of my free time on facebook; chatting with friends, looking through photos and putting my opinions up for the world to see and appreciate. I imagine all this virtual interaction with my friends is a good thing for me. I was uptodate on all that was happening with my friends. I was in touch with people who were closest to me via chat. Isn't it all wonderful..

    But why isn't all fulfilling? Why doesn't seeing my nephews latest photo on my wall even bring a smile to my face?

    Seeing the latest update from my friends is like: "ok, so this guy went to this place and did this". It didn't mean anything to me. I was irritated, if anything; with the tinted landscape photos and the artificial lens flares. There is such a thing as being too social -- especially of the virtual kind.

    With the friends that i did chat with regularly i found that i had nothing meaningful to say. And nothing they said seemed interesting. What did keep the conversation flowing was cutting humor and snide remarks. Most of my interaction with friends were reduced to making fun of them and trying to come up with the next punch line. Ironically my phone conversations with these guy are more meaningful. But all the meaningless text chatter does have an negative impact on phone conversations. The irritation and the One-upmanship was making me feel alienated from people. In a short period of time i might have had less than pleasant interactions with 4-5 friends. Nothing new was said that wasn't said before, but our irritation with each others were palpable. It is not just me, people all around are having small ego clashes. This is not to say that people didn't have arguments and fight before, but this is a large group of people (on top of your regular personal social circle) who you are in contact with almost perpetually. Ego flare-ups are unavoidable. Ultimately you end up with a bad taste in the mouth. I find it hard to believe that this problem is limited just to me.

    I was tired of all of it. So, i deactivated my account. I wish facebook provided option to delete account. I don't want to be able to relogin and activate my account again.

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  13. You can delete your FB entirely here:

    https://ssl.facebook.com/help/contact.php?show_form=delete_account

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  14. I agree. I disappointed with these enormous promotion, advertising, these posts just-to-say-anything... And I prefer to read posts in LJ or elsewhere or spend time in more pleasant way...

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  15. I was reluctant to do Facebook, but - like a lot of people - I was bludgeoned into it. It has turned out to be somewhat useful, but the excess of if-I-think-it-I-say-it status updates makes it about as interesting as wading through a flooded basement at times. Is there a Facebook Diarrhea Cleanup App?

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  16. It seems that Facebook is desperate to get in-between my friends and I.

    As is the original programming had posts from everybody, but now it puts ads and suggestions on my wall and ignores people who I don't actively view their wall.

    I wish Facebook would search out obscure things from my friends, not reinforce the recent pages I looked at. It becoming a closet full of things that I forget about over time.

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  17. FB in my opinion cuts you off from having a real and meaningful life... experiencing a true connection with people rather than merely a cyber based artificial one. I know people who spend most of their time on facebook, it's sad to see how much it has taken over people's lives.

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  18. 10 years from now what will you have done on Facebook that is of any real value? Very little if anything.

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  19. If a narcissist can't get admirers, he or she will seek at minimum an audience. Facebook provides such an audience. Because true interaction is discouraged on FB, I think it provides a platform for those who would have their narcissistic, bullying behavior kept in check in other venues. After joining FB, I was at first flattered by the rush of "friend invites" I received from people I went to school with and with whom I shared a common interest. Then I noticed that I was getting invites from people I didn't know, and furthermore, other than the people I'd gone to school with getting testy about me not posting a pic of myself or responding to each and every "status report" they posted, I noted that one I'd accepted a friend invitation, there was no interaction or conversation. I quickly learned that connecting with or making new friends wasn't the purpose of being invited to be friends with someone. The true purpose was to have more "friends" than others.

    I also think it would be interesting to find out how many facebook pages belong to dead people or animals. My brother died more than three years ago and his wife has kept his Facebook page active, including playing the games he used to play. (I suspect there's a monetary reason for this since she also did not report his death to the state where they live and evidently buried him in the backyard, but that's another story.) A few of the older women who share a common interest with me have died in the past few years, and all of their pages are still active. If they had listed their birthday, every year they get birthday wishes, some obviously from people who know these women are dead, but about 10 times more from people who just as obviously think these women are still alive. Since Facebook's value is based on the number of people with pages, it would be interesting to know exactly how many of those people are still with us in this world!

    At the end of the day, I haven't found a good purpose for Facebook in my personal or professional lives. I wager that it will be passe sooner than many anticipate.

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  20. I never wanted to go to facebook in the first place, but had to follow my friends over from myspace to keep in contact. it was glamorous at first but now every day is the same crap. non stop drama and pictures of non interesting things flooding my news feed. people always seem to use facebook as a first contact and forget that we have phones! i really do hope this all ends soon and everyone will remember how much better life was before facebook took hold of all our lives

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    1. Agree completely!You can't just block drama if your related to it!

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  21. Facebook is kool in some ways but life threatening in other ways..... It is nice to have for family , But watch out, because it is very easy to hook up with someone and mess your whole life up.... Facebook can be used for the greater good if used right... But I will say that the only reason I hate facebook is because my screen went blank and it seems to be unrepairable .... Their tech support people suck ass... And yes there is a lot of drama on facebook too... But it also is up to you to block that crap off your page.... If you do not like something, then why are you still looking at it.. That is why they give you a block button to use.... Use it often and quit bitching about the drama... You bring the drama yourself when you do not get rid of the source.... I have a very clean facebook when it works... LOL but, I am hating on facebook because they do not have what it takes to keep it running properly... Like I said before they suck in the tech department...

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    1. Sometimes the Drama on FB isn't so easy to get rid of if your related to the Drama queens or kings the only way some people can get rid of the Drama is to delete their accounts so they don't have to worry that you better comment on it or they will think you don't care,in my opinion if these people want your prayers or advice on their personal Drama they should call or come over, I often wonder if these Drama friends are just wanting all the attention from all their FB friends and don't really want a personal relationship because I told my relative to call me about a matter and they didn't so I figure it was more a wanting attention thing on FB! That to me was not very real because I'm the only one that knew the answer to her questions,but she in my opinion just wanted attention from all her FB friends!Or their sympathy, I've noticed allot of this personal crybaby attention seeking on FB from her!So I am done with the games and non real relationships on FB! It's two days now off and feeling much more free like I used to before I ever had a FB account!! Yeah!

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  22. Facebook is still very popular among my peers. I think many of them will continue to stay on Facebook for years to come. However, I have heard a few of my friends who check Facebook only to see if anyone has contacted them and to browse pictures taken by some friends who enjoy taking photos in social events and posting them on Facebook. I have a friend who used to spend so much time and effort creating "perfect" vacation shots, which often triggered my envy because I lack the freedom and money to go to those destinations. So I felt vindicated when she admitted to me in person that she now sees Facebook as a waste of time and that she rarely checks it out because she's focusing on studying for the lawyer board exam. I hope that once she's done with the exam and "goes back to civilization," as she often told me, she would not spend that much time on Facebook.

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  23. I really am sick of FB. The inane politics are beyond the fringe. People are gullible and will believe the stupidest posts that can easily be reviewed in SNOPES, instead of writing a little blog about observations or things that are going on, it's a share fest of crap. I think I'm done. Finito.

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  24. Facebook vanishing by 2020; that is a bold prediction. With the infinite resources at their disposal, I think FB will be here for at least another ten years strong. Dominating the social media airwaves.

    The Facebook team are very smart and creative people. I think they will make their adjustments when the market changes. Innovation is part of their genetic make-up.

    You cite Myspace company. They are still around, and it is still a very profitable business. They have strong rank standing in the world. And like any other business when competition hits them hard, they set new guidelines and change their mission statement. As long the business is thriving and providing jobs, then success can be measure.

    Here is three-minute read how my butt got bigger using Facebook.

    http://www.gymhub.com/my-butt-got-bigger-using-fat-facebook/

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