Saturday, November 16, 2013

"You Have to Join Facebook"


It seems that this website is getting some attention from Facebook's corporate office. I can't say that I am too surprised; this site's message is hostile to the site, and it's Facebook's mission to make it so that everyone on Earth signs up and spends their days hooked up to it. We will just have to wait and see how long Facebook keeps watching this site, but I have a feeling it's going to be for quite a while.

Recently my wife's sister told my wife she would have to join Facebook once the baby is born. I, needless to say, was not amused by this statement. Neither of us want to raise our child on Facebook and we will not be signing up to show off our child to everyone in the world over Facebook or any other (a)social media. Sadly, this person can not seem to understand why a person would not want to be on Facebook.  So many people live their lives via Facebook and get little out of the real world that is around them.  This is not the kind of life that I find myself desiring.  It is not the kind of life my wife or I want for our child.

While I will not be posting pictures of the baby all over the internet, I have found out that others in my family do share the pictures we send to them of things like ultrasounds, etc. over Facebook. While I am not crazy about the idea, the truth is, I can not control it. I would rather these members of my family just get rid of Facebook, as they spend an inordinate amount of time on the website. However, there is no way that this will be done in the near future. Many people believe that a part of a healthy adult life includes a Facebook account. Sadly, they are only harming themselves by wasting hours on Facebook daily. Needless to say, with seeing all of Facebook's ill effects, we have no desire to return.

If one wants to be a private person in today's world, they must work to be so. The virtue of privacy seems to be slowly eroding as (a)social media finds its way into the lives of almost every person that owns a cellular phone or computer. The allure of being somehow “connected” to those far away is so profound that few can resist the call. Few question if it is really a “connection” that we have over the internet. Is it? I don't believe that a Facebook connection is a real connection. It's superficial at best. Bragging over the internet is not connecting.  Whining over the internet is not connecting.  Those who have been duped into believing that their lives are better because of Facebook would do well to log off for a year and see if they are missing out on anything. The longer you are away from Facebook, the less you'll miss it.

Author's Note:  Lately I have been busy with another website and my time on this site has been limited. However, as I have been staying with family and have noticed Facebook everywhere in their lives, I will be writing here more often from now on.  There is a lot more to say about Facebook that needs to be said, and few are standing up to say it.  If you have anything to share, please post in the comments.  If you would like to submit an article to this site, let me know and e-mail it to fbdetox@gmail.com

1 comment:

  1. Interesting blog, I share your point of view on every aspect of the Facebook problem. I am horrified on what id going to happen when my child is born, and I really don't know how to make my partner understand why I don't want pictures of the baby to be posted. I'm sure you've been through it as well: you try to explain, but they think you're exaggerating or paranoid about privacy issues. They don't even want to hear the word "addiction", and keep living in denial.
    Yet, I have set up an account a few months ago, in order to keep in touch with some people i needed updates from, and who refused to contact me through other tools. I was forced into it. Now I don't need it any more, but in the meantime I have started to publish new content from my blog on my facebook account, and i got some hits form my contacts that way. Now, I'm afraid no one will read it any more if they aren't notified via facebook every time a new article is out. Of course there's a "subscribe via email" link on the blog homepage, but who needs to subscribe when they have facebook notifications? In fact, no one did.
    My question is, could it realistically be possible to promote a blog or anything else without using social networks? It's the only thing that keeps me from deleting the account. Should I rely solely on posting interesting content and hope someone discovers it via search engines? What do you think about it?

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