Thursday, December 5, 2013

Leaving Facebook

Do something this year to improve your life
by leaps and bounds -- leave Facebook!
With the new year approaching, many people take the opportunity to make a New Year's resolution. Recently you may have heard that multiple Facebook account passwords have been stolen (source).   Now is an excellent time to make a resolution to leave Facebook.

Take a look back at the last year and ask yourself the following questions.  Be honest with yourself and take some time to think through them.
1.  How much have you used Facebook last year?
2.  Have you got tired of the constant bragging and arguing that takes place on Facebook?
3.  Do you feel good about yourself when you log off Facebook?
4.  Are your family members and friends using Facebook constantly?
5.  Are you tired of how people will only talk to you and contact you via Facebook?
6.  Has Facebook usage caused to you forgo other opportunities and goals in your life?
7.  What do you see yourself doing with the time you would have otherwise spent on Facebook?
8.  Is Facebook really that exciting to you now, or is it more of a habit?
9.  Do you use Facebook while ignoring the people around you?  Are you missing out on your children and families growing older?
If you are honest with how you answer these questions, you may find that Facebook is not quite as great as many claim.  In fact, there are many people who outright state that they do not miss Facebook after leaving it.  As crazy as it may sound, many people are actually quite happy with their decision to leave Facebook!

It has already been established that Facebook is addicting.  Like many things that are addicting, it is hard and even sometimes scary for some to contemplate leaving their Facebook addiction behind.  Many people fear that they will be chastised for leaving, ignored, or that their lives will be empty.  Many people claim that they feel that they will not know what is going on in the world if they don't have Facebook.

First, if you are chastised for leaving Facebook, you should stand strong and tell people that it is your decision whether or not you are on Facebook.  There is nothing wrong with you for not being on the site. If you feel the need, tell others why you left and why you are not going back.  Be firm.  When people ask me why I am not on Facebook I tell them exactly why.  When people tell me that I need to join Facebook I tell them that will never happen.  They may not like it, but it's my life.

Many people will want you to be on Facebook because they want to see what you are doing.  Many enjoy the idea that they are being watched and seen.  However, there is something to say about being a private person and living your own life; being away from the constant drama and bragging that Facebook is rife with.

Has the novelty of Facebook disappeared for you?
If you feel that you will be ignored by some when you leave Facebook, that is not your loss.  The people that really do care for you will contact you still.  Those who don't probably will not.  At first, when I left, I felt somewhat angry that many people did not contact me or seem to care at all about my life.  However, over time I realized that I was not losing out by not being contacted by others.  If Facebook had never been invented (which would have been great), I would not have been contacted by many of the people who I knew on the site.

Over the years, when I was on Facebook, I found that the longer I was on the site, the less certain people conversed with me.  They were content with me being on their friend's list, and I was content merely being on theirs.  This is when I started to wonder if Facebook was really social or if the often touted social aspect of Facebook was merely imaginary.  Over time I started to realize, seeing all the fighting, arguing, boasting, and time spent on the site, that Facebook was actually quite (a)social.  That's right -- I learned that Facebook is not really social at all!  It's merely a gimmick to get people to sign up.  I realized that being connected does not mean being social, and being connected with everyone is not always a good thing.

Is Facebook really exciting for you now?

When I first signed up for Facebook it was very exciting to see the people who I knew long ago but had lost contact with.  For months I would sign in and see what they were doing.  However, Facebook started to lose that novelty.  Over time, I tried to rekindle that excitement, but alas, it was long gone.  When I read the things that many people were saying and took notice of the time that I spent on the site, I started to wonder if my usage of Facebook was more toxic than beneficial.  When I left Facebook and noticed my life improving by leaps and bounds, I realized that Facebook was not something I wanted to be a part of.  When I took notice of the people who were still on Facebook and letting their lives fall apart, it established to me that I had no reason to return to Facebook.

Every day I see people who complain about their lives and complain about having too little time, but spend hours a day on Facebook.  Many of these people want sympathy and go on Facebook to get it.  Instead of spending all that time on Facebook, they should get off the website and start to put their lives back together.  It is amazing what one can accomplish in a day if they create goals and work to achieve them.  The satisfaction one gets from achieving a goal is far greater than the satisfaction one gets from wasting hours and days on Facebook.

This year try leaving Facebook and other (a)social websites and create a better life for yourself.  You are not going to be able to lose weight, do well in school, achieve success in business, or better yourself while you are glued to Facebook.  Take some time off Facebook and take note of how your life improves.  Take note of others who are on Facebook and refuse to leave.  Ask yourself: do I really want to return to that way of life?  Do I really miss being on the site that is just a big internet sounding board?  Just because the media tells you that you need to be on Facebook (usually due to a pecuinary interest that they have in the site), the truth is, you do not.  You only live once, why live it on Facebook?

Have you given any thought to leaving Facebook?  If so, share your experiences in the comment field, or e-mail FBdetox@gmail.com.

2 comments:

  1. This is so true, and so sad. I have literally seen fights break out between people who don't know each other on a neutral person's page, who didn't even comment and wasn't even aware. I have seen sisters in law get angry because someone they don't even know is complimenting a child that isn't theirs, and actually think that is ok to express that on the internet. People can behave like such animals in general, but on facebook you see it ALL. Right there.

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  2. Thank you for this post. While it recaps a lot of your other posts, I did need to read it again. I had been inspired by your blog and left FB, only to return to update my business page regularly. Now I find myself sucked in again, wasting time and becoming jealous over mundane activities on my newsfeed. It's just not worth it.

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