Monday, October 20, 2014

You Can Not Have Nice Things

Or, don't bother with Facebook and (a)social media and live life instead
There are some of us who strive to have great lives and who work hard for all that we have, yet to be shot down when we think that we are about to have something nice.  Facebook was, to many of us, that "nice thing" that we thought would make our lives oh-so-much better.

The truth is, Facebook and other forms of (a)social media has made many lives worse, with the endless drama, anger, fighting, and movement away from those who we hold most dear.  Facebook was something we thought we could use as a tool to make our life somehow better, but instead it became a curse for many of us.  It became a snare in our life that took away our time with our children, or family, our friends, our productivity and moving forward in life.  It has literally raped the "good" out of many people's lives.  That is quite a shame.

I once was on Facebook and I thought that it was a good thing.  I thought that it would be nice to talk to family and friends and stay in touch with others, show off my accomplishments, and even have some entertainment.  Boy was I wrong.  Quickly after joining many people brought their drama right into my life.  Even though I lived hundreds of miles away, I was bombarded with all-consuming negativity.  People who I thought were sane had somehow fooled me for years.  They were all bat crazy on the internet!  I tried to appeal to reason to many who would not hear it.  I knew that I could not just blame people -- after all, many people change for the worse on the internet it seems.  However, what I saw was that something that I thought would be "good" and "nice" turned people "rotten" and "arrogant."  I was quickly disgusted.

I began by blocking others.  I blocked those who were negative and whose words hurt me.  I blocked those who perplexed me by their thoughtless fingers.  However, it did not take them long to find out that I blocked them.  Equipped with inordinate amounts of time on their hands, they found that I was still on the site!  They then confronted me about it.  They were angry and vengeful at me for removing them from my list of friends.  How could I dare live a healthy life and let toxic people try to ruin it for me?

Duh.  I said I wanted to deactivate didn't I?!?!!?!
So, instead, I ran like a little girl from Facebook.  I ran like a wild child being chased by ten thousand tigers through a forest of endless sorrow and inordinate fear.  I felt numb when I told Facebook I was done.  When the site asked me if I would miss all my friends, I did not know what to think.  Would they hunt me down, trying to see if I was still on this site, or would they go on with their virtual lives and forget about me?  I hoped it would be the latter. 

Many of us just can not have nice things.  Many of us lived in a fantasy world where we thought that Facebook would really allow us to have a nice virtual relationship with our family and friends who lived so far away.  Instead, reality stung hard.  We were bombarded with bragging, arrogance, fighting, bickering, and constant unending drama.  Our eyes basically bled when we read what some people said to others.  We saw people act holier than thou and proclaim their greatness while others shared their political views to the world even though nobody wanted to hear about them any longer.  In short, Facebook was not the nice thing we thought it was.  Maybe we just can't have nice things when it comes to (a)social media. 

Sunday, September 28, 2014

Viewing the World Through Pinterest Colored Glasses



The idea of being a hippie is huge on social media.
The real world.
Social Media has changed the way many of us view the world around us over the past few years.  One of the most profound changes that I have seen is that many people are living in a fantasy world where everything is perfect.  I call this "viewing the world through Pinterest colored glasses." 

For those who do not know, Pinterest is a site where people post pictures that appeal to them.  Many post pictures of a house or a meal or a trick that makes life perfect.  In the world of Pinterest there is no sadness, no anger, no death.  It is a feel good place where life is always peaches and cream.  On Pinterest (as well as Instagram) one can escape reality and show off a life that is all too serene.  It is, in large, a fantasy world.

The world of Pinterest has invaded the rest of the internet, and Facebook is not immune.  While I believe that it is great to look at life with a positive viewpoint, I can not help but wonder what kind of depression people are feeling when they log off their computers and phones and see the world through their own eyes.  A messy house, a broken family, arguments with ex friends, dirty clothes, a dog who needs walked, a pouty stepson, an upcoming divorce, a car that needs fixed, keeping up with the neighbors, overbearing parents and grandparents.  Perhaps living in the world of (a)social media is better to many people, who see pictures of beautiful homes with fine decor, food that is both healthy and saccharine sweet, children who are well behaved and well dressed in ways that are both extra fancy and extra frugal.  Instead of going on a vacation we are bombarded with Photoshopped images of beaches of florescent sand and golden skies with blue water that shimmers unlike anything that exists outside in the real world.  We see a nighttime scene of lights and alleys with people singing, carroling, and carrying on in ways that hint of a perfect world somewhere just out of our grasp.  We try to maintain a feeling of awe and wonder and happiness as we try to ignore the sounds of our family begging for our attention with their real needs and wants.

If only the outside world was like Pinterest where all the water of the Earth is sweet and pure and animals do not die for the meat we eat!  If only the world was like Pinterest where we could all start our own organic farms and live in old cabins in mountain valleys that shined with purple skies and flocks of deer that came to eat out of our hands! 

Much of the Pinterest world reminds me of a snake oil vendor, selling ideas and cures for the ordinary world.  Like a snake oil dealer, Pinterest, Instagram and Facebook are dabbling in the idea of life being perfect behind the screen.  "Don't stray from the computer, where life is messy and real.  Everything you need is here"

The world outside is a beautiful place, full of awe and wonder.  Yet, the realities of the world are in stark contrast to the imaginary world that exists through the screen of (a)social media websites.  When one goes hiking deep in the woods there are dangers to be aware of.  When one travels across the world, there is poverty a few meters away from the beaches.  When you see an image of a house that looks perfect, full of furniture that would cost a small fortune and a huge amount of time to acquire, there is the chance of the elements destroying it, of thieves ravaging it, and of time warping it.  The world is not perfect, and one can not hide behind (a)social media and pretend it is.  As humans one of our jobs is to make the world a better place, not hide our heads in the sand of (a)social media and pretend that the world is something that it is not. 

Monday, September 1, 2014

Reader Submitted Articles: I've Quit Facebook - All the Better for Doing it too.

I’ve quit Facebook – all the better for doing it too
Anonymous

I MADE the decision on quitting Facebook. You know what? I actually feel better for it. Getting shut of the 'social' networking site has given me a fresh perspective on things. Particularly a reflection on me and my life. I don't think some people on Facebook intend to do this. But a lot of the stuff on there put me in a foul mood. It made me feel inferior and inadequate. It made me feel out I was missing out on a lot of things. Especially from spending a lot of my spare time on FB ­ of which I did! Wasting a lot of time comparing my life with other peoples' 'perfect' lives.  The things that lots of people post on Facebook. A nice meal with their boyfriend or girlfriend, getting engaged, married, having children. Going on holidays and on nights out every weekend.

I know a lot of the stuff people post things on Facebook as if their lives are like a bed of roses. The reality is that their lives probably aren't more exciting than my own. It could be a smokescreen; may very well be a form of keeping up appearances. It's all about the likes and wanting to impress others.

Elsewhere, despite those with their 'perfect' lives on FB. There are also a lot of people who moan and rant about things. Whether it's politics or their football team losing a game. Then you have relationships, so­called 'friends' and family they'll rant about ­ which is usually aimed at them. It’s another form of airing their dirty linen in public.

Seeing that side of Facebook does make me feel better about myself; much in the same way as watching The Jeremy Kyle Show.  My life isn't that bad, I'm doing OK for myself. In truth, I don't care and I don't want to know to be honest.  Seeing the negativity itself give me more reason to quit Facebook.  I've had enough of Facebook.  Enough is enough.  So it was time to call it a day.

It's been over a week since I've quit Facebook. I haven't felt the need to go back on it at all. I'm not interested in what's going on with other peoples' lives. In fact, I don't want to know. There's a lot more to life than spending hours and wasting your time on FB.

The people in my life that matter are my friends and family. Who I call, text, and spend time with. They're the people that matter. Quitting Facebook will also tell me on who are my true friends. That's if they're willing to make the effort to contact me and see me in person. I don't need FB to keep in contact with my friends and family anyway.

There's a long list of people who I had on Facebook as a 'friend' that I couldn't care less about ­ too many in fact! I don't feel the need to let every nosey bugger know how my life is going with some status updates, memes or pictures.

Since quitting Facebook, I haven't looked back. Admittedly, it's been quieter, but it's definitely a good thing. Gave me more time to reflect on things, but also spend it on making myself more useful. I'm looking forward, and I have been using my time with concentrating and living my own life.

I know Facebook is a ‘social’ networking site. If anything, it’s anti­social network. I’m much better off without it.

If you have a story that you would like to share, please e-mail me at fbdetox@gmail.com.  You can choose to remain anonymous if you wish.  Otherwise, share your stories in the comments section.  Thank you for reading!

Thursday, March 20, 2014

Should New Parents Join Facebook?

Cobbler and his family - Abraham van Strij
I mentioned here a while back that one of my wife's sisters was trying to get my wife to get back on Facebook because we were having a child.  Since we do not live near most of our family, many are not able to see our daughter regularly.  Therefore, this particular sister thought that Facebook would be the answer (and only option).  She even said, and I quote:

"Once you have the baby, you have to join Facebook."

Well, the baby is now two months old and we have yet to join Facebook.  And we will not be joining Facebook, in fact!  So, what does that mean?  Does that mean that others will not be seeing the baby grow up?  Does that mean that everyone in the family has to suffer?

No, it does not.  What many fail to realize is that Facebook is not the only option.  There are many ways to share a new baby with family and friends other than Facebook.

For example, we came up with a way to share pictures and the baby's life on the internet -- a blog about the baby's life! 

What I really like about making a blog about the baby's life is that it tells more of a story, goes into deeper detail, and can be made private.  I do not think that my child's life should be paraded around the internet to every stranger.  That's an invasion of her privacy, and even though she is a baby, she should have a right to some privacy.


An interesting article about this very topic appeared on CNN.

'Facebook parenting' is destroying our children's privacy
"On the most basic level, we want to be able to tell our story about our lives. But, in the case of our children, a permanent and public story has already been recorded about them before they have a chance to decide whether they want to participate or even whether the narrative is true to their own vision of self."
Facebook has done a great job as well as a great disservice in making the world believe that it is the best way to be connected.  Many post pictures of their children and talk about their children in ways that are, frankly, embarrassing.  Many people do not take much time to think before they post.  It's one thing to share something about your own life to the entire world, but to do so for a person who does not have a choice is another matter altogether. 

Creating a private blog is a great way to share your child's life with family and friends.  There is still a danger of saying something embarrassing, yet the audience is much smaller.  Only the people who are interested in reading will bother reading it.  Face it, many people on Facebook state that they do not like the barrage of baby pictures, especially when they are from people they barely know. 

Many people on Facebook will put pictures of their children because they feel the need to create a persona of being a good parent.  For example, an article entitled The pros and cons of 'sharenting' in The Guardian stated the following:
But opting out altogether is not that easy, as Natalie Lisbona, who lives in north London, knows. She is one of only two parents she knows who does not share information about their children online. "I wonder where these pictures will end up. I wonder what the information will be used for and how my girls will feel about me handing it over," she says. But she caved in and put up a couple of photos a few months ago. "I suppose I just wanted to prove I'm a good mum," she says. "I worry that by not mentioning my kids, people will think I'm not interested in them and don't do things with them. I put up a photo of them and it got 30 'likes' … I couldn't help feeling proud. But I'm trying to avoid posting anything else. I think the girls will respect me for it when they're older and still have their privacy."
One of Facebook's drawbacks is that people feel the need to prove something about themselves.  Why spend so much time on the internet proving that you are one way or another? 

I shared my private blog with many family members who were excited to see pictures of the baby and a narrative about the new baby's life.  I have been able to show her growth and talk about how I feel about being her parent.  It is nice, because I am creating a journal of her early life that I will one day present to her. 

Yet, what of the sister that said: "Once you have the baby, you have to join Facebook"?

Well, she has not looked at the blog, as it is nigh impossible to contact her without Facebook.  She uses Facebook for e-mail.  Perhaps if she asks, I will tell her of the blog, although she will probably not like the idea of a blog much.  She wants us back on Facebook and can not understand our aversion to it.  A real shame, perhaps.  Maybe it's just an example of how Facebook has pulled yet another person in.   

If you are a parent, and are a Facebook user, take some time to think about what you say about your children on Facebook.  Think about how you would feel if someone else said the same about you.  Or better yet, unhook yourself from Facebook right now and never look back!

Are you on Facebook and have children?  Do you share their lives with others?  Do you get annoyed with other parents who share tidbits about their children's lives that are private?  Things such as their first period, their bad habits, or how misbehaved they were?  If so, please share your experiences in the comment field below.

Saturday, January 4, 2014

Facebook Detox: Is Facebook Good For You?

The Fountain of Love by Francois Boucher
A world without Facebook?
Facebook Detox's mission is to create public awareness that sites such as Facebook, Twitter, Friendster, Myspace, and other (a)social media (called such because the user is generally forgoing social activities by using such websites, and such websites are often used when alone) are detrimental to a person's enjoyment of as well as the fulfillment one gets out of their life.

Individuals consume a huge amount of time hooked up to the largely fantasy world of Facebook and other (a)social networks. Many people have a huge emotional investment with such sites. Feelings such as jealousy, anger, self-hatred, and pessimism are often the result of prolonged use of Facebook. This is because users can not help but compare their lives to the lives of other users, especially those who they have on their “friends list.”

While many compare their lives to their friends, many do not take the time to consider the fact that very few people share both the positive and negative attributes of their lives on the internet. We compare what we know about ourselves, the good and the bad, to what we see – which is only the good aspects that other individuals choose to show. Invariably, we are apt to have negative feelings and often feel apathetic upon processing this in our minds.

Comparing ourselves to others and the resulting jealousy is not the only problem with (a)social media. Spending large amounts of time on these sites costs us in other areas of our lives. For example, almost every individual has goals and wants. Many people want to create something, whether it is writing a book, create a short film, finish a degree, find a job, spend time with a family member who may not be around much longer, keep a journal, improve one's property, start a project, open a business, learn a language, exercise, begin investing, read a novel, or something similar. However, many people put their dreams on hold, sometimes spending hours a day on Facebook instead of working towards their goals. Apps have been developed that wake a person up in the morning and open Facebook for them. Yes, that's right. Many people check Facebook first thing upon waking and before going to bed. Facebook is the first and last thing that they look it in a day!

Perhaps excessive Facebook use is something you struggle with? Perhaps you gave up Facebook a while back and feel left out because everyone else seems to be using it? Maybe you have read that some people view those who do not use Facebook as being mischievous or psychotic in some way? Perhaps you reminisce of a time where people were not glued to a smartphone and actually spent time engaged with the environment around them? I know that I do.

The reality is that at any given time, there are millions of people all over the world viewing Facebook. Many of these people do feel the negative side effects that come with Facebook, yet few even acknowledge that (a)social media, like many things, has negative attributes. Many people view Facebook as a way to keep in touch with loved ones. However, that view is highly questionable. On the surface, that's what Facebook and other (a)social media claims as its purpose. However, when one digs below the surface, there is a multi-billion dollar industry that wants you to be hooked up to the site at all times.

Websites like Facebook and Twitter are advertised heavily on news programs and in the media. Many companies have a huge financial interest in getting you to spend your time engaged with these websites. Stories of how Facebook, Twitter, and (a)social media is addicting or causes emotional and psychological damage only gets cursory media attention. Very few people even take the time to consider the damage that Facebook may be causing them or their children. Many see such negative attributes as a necessary evil in giving them the opportunity to keep in touch or track their friends and loved ones. Such companies thrive on this popular idea.

There are many people, however, who are beginning to ask, “is this type of 'social networking' healthy?” Many people are deactivating their accounts and seeing that there is a better life for them outside of the addicting and debilitating world of (a)social media. Ask yourself:
  • When was the last time you felt jealous of one of your Facebook friends?
  • Have you ever felt irritated or hurt by what a person said on Facebook?
  • Do you feel that you or your friends share far too much about their lives to the rest of the world?
  • Do you ever feel that you waste too much time on Facebook – time that you could have put to better use?
  • Has it ever irritated you that people around you were glued to Facebook or similar websites?
  • Do you know people who seem to exaggerate how great their lives are?
  • Have you ever exaggerated about your life on Facebook?
  • When you look at the lives of those who you know, have you noticed that those who live the most impressive lives do not spend time on Facebook?
  • Does getting likes make you feel good? Have you ever felt angry that you didn't get a like for something you posted?
Exaggerating about your life on Facebook

If you could trade your life for the life that you claim to live on your Facebook profile, would you? Chances are, almost everyone would. Exaggerating about one's attributes and lifestyles is common everywhere, but on Facebook, such exaggerations are made even more apparent. For example, academic achievements, status in one's job, socioeconomic status, and life achievements are routinely exaggerated on Facebook.

Although it is well known that people exaggerate on Facebook, that does not stop others from becoming jealous of the exaggerated lives of others. Even if you acknowledge that there is excessive exaggeration on Facebook, perhaps you have felt that your life did not even come close to measuring up to the lives of your friends. How did that make you feel? Perhaps you felt angry or depressed upon logging out. Did you think about that person throughout the day? Longer? Many users of Facebook feel incredible dissatisfaction about their lives when they spend hours comparing themselves to others.

If you assert that you don't compare your life to others when using Facebook, you may want to reconsider that assertion. Facebook was created as a means in which to compare the looks of Harvard students. Now it can be said to be a resume of your perceived life. Humans, by their very nature, compare everything they see. It is how we process information. We make value judgments and decisions based on comparison. Such comparing is integral to how we function and live our lives as humans. Such comparing is how we process information on Facebook. When you are looking at another person's profile, you are comparing that individual to yourself. One could go as far as to say that being on Facebook is almost masochistic. When we log in day after day to compare our lives to the perfect-seeming lives of others, we are slowly destroying our own self-esteem.

Facebook's currency is the like. Many people measure themselves and their lives based on how many likes they get. Many will post something in the hopes that they get a like for saying it. We oftentimes compare how many likes we got versus how many likes one of our friends received. Have you ever felt upset when something you said did not get liked, even though you were proud of it? Did you ever spend time posting pictures or writing something that seemed to be ignored? How did that make you feel?

Be honest: How does Facebook make you feel?
Facebook users also compare the amount of friends they have. Some individuals go quite far in getting as many friends as they can get. It has been said that a huge percentage of Facebook users are duplicate or otherwise fake accounts. Many people have duplicate accounts, whether it is for their pet, their child, or for an imaginary version of themselves.

Deactivate, Unplug, Empower

These are the three steps to ending an addiction to (a)social media. The first step, is, of course, realizing that you have a problem. Are you addicted to (a)social media? Only you can answer that question, but chances are, if you are reading this, you probably are at least considering that you have a problem. I would venture to say that a majority of Facebook's users are addicted. If you are logging in at prescribed times of the day, you are most likely addicted. I have known people who feel the insatiable urge to log onto Facebook immediately upon waking up as well as right before going to bed. It is not uncommon for hardcore Facebook addicts to spend time in bed surfing Facebook nightly before sleeping.

This is a problem, especially when it begins to interfere with real life. Anything that gets in the way of one's priorities in life and their goals is problematic. For example, when asking yourself if you are addicted to Facebook, consider:
  • Do you use Facebook immediately upon waking?
  • Do you use Facebook immediately before going to bed?
  • Do you feel irritable if you don't get your precious time with Facebook?
  • Do you spend more than an hour at a time on Facebook?
  • Do you use Facebook at work or school or any other time when you should be engaged in something else?
  • Do you use Facebook while walking outside?
  • Does it anger you if others do not have a Facebook account?
  • Do you get an update on your phone every time someone updates their Facebook?
  • Do you feel the urge to check Facebook while driving?
  • Do you feel sick or on edge if you have not checked your Facebook for a certain period of time?
  • Does the idea of going a weekend or a week without Facebook make you feel uneasy?
  • Do you find it hard to imagine a life without Facebook?
  • Do you get irritable when others insinuate that you may be addicted to Facebook?
If you notice that many of the above points apply to you, perhaps it is time to deactivate Facebook. Deactivating is the easy part. Anyone can turn off Facebook for a few minutes. However, the problem emerges once one has the desire to go back on Facebook. It's often a powerful, nagging desire. It can be quite strong at first. If this is the case, and if the pull is just too strong, you are likely addicted.

Unplugging is the step that happens the moment after you deactivate. It means staying off (a)social media sites. It means not going back. It means trying to forget about them. There is no doubt that you will hear from friends and family that you are missing out by not being on Facebook. You may be labeled as a societal pariah or as somehow devious for not being a part of an (a)social network website. Others may be offended that you left. There is no doubt that some may think that you are making a judgement against those who are on Facebook. However, the reality is that this step is needed if you are to be free of (a)social media.

Unplugging doesn't just happen over a day or a week. It is a constant process that keeps chugging from the moment that you free yourself by deactivating whatever (a)social media presence has been draining your time. Unplugging means exactly what it sounds like: Unplugging any and every connection from (a)social media and not going back. If a crack addict was to go a few years without snorting and then inject just a wee bit into his buttocks, would that somehow be OK since he had gone so long without a fix? Or would such a fix cause the once addicted crack fiend to be back at square one? I tend to think that most agree with the latter answer. The (a)social media addict, therefore, must unplug and unplug for life. Addiction can easily resurface. It's ugly head emerges back when a taste of the previous addictive stimuli comes back into the picture.

Once you unplug you have to constantly empower yourself. If you just sit around and think about sites like Facebook all day long, you are going to do nothing for yourself in the long run. Eventually you are going to feel the constant nagging want to log back in. And you will probably give into that incessant urge. Instead of just sitting there like a bump on a camel's back, why not do something that has some positive impact in your life?

I have noticed that many Facebook users are at a point in their life where they feel that they are stagnating. Sometimes it looks like Facebook users are making huge strides in their lives, but the reality is that when someone merely talks about something, someone is rarely actually doing things. Take a moment to ask yourself: “Of all my friends, who are the most productive? Who would I really want to be?” Do they have a Facebook account? How often are they on Facebook? I have found that of the people who I know, who I would like to be more like, few of them are on Facebook. Ask yourself if your heroes in life have a Facebook account. Do they use it constantly? How much do they use it? I am guessing not too much. I heard the pope perhaps tweets, but is he locked on Twitter 24/7? I am guessing not. I heard that some movie stars have Facebook accounts, but I can not help but wonder how much of the updating is done by PR agents and the like. In other words, are the big time names in the world locked into the world of (a)social media, or are they just keeping the masses pacified?

Empowering is the step that will do you the most good in life. It is the part where, instead of posting on Facebook, you start to make strides towards the life that you really want to live. For example, I wanted to finish school really bad. At the time, before I started law school, I was inundated with a life full of Facebook. I talked about my future and the things I would accomplish. Yet, when I logged off every day, I felt that I was doing nothing with my life. Sometimes I feel like a true failure having burned through hours of daylight while looking at other's profiles and comparing myself to them. Sometimes I felt like the biggest loser in the world when I went to bed because I was seeing my friends buying homes, cars, making babies, raising babies, and going back to college. I would see people that were entering their careers well before 30 and I was still working in the realm of fast food. I wanted more out of my life and sometimes posting something funny on Facebook was enough to make me feel happy. In fact, when someone liked my status it made me feel good enough to keep going in life. There was no need for me to do anything else because I got a few likes now and then. I must have been doing something right. Right?

Fairest City - The Anger for Enemies by Nicholas Roerich
What has Facebook given you?
Wrong! The truth was, each day I wasted on Facebook got me nothing other than a like that was quickly forgotten. When I left the computer (for example, to go to work), I began to imagine the life that I really wanted. When I would see people living lives that I wanted, I felt jealous and angry. I was getting older every single day, but what was I doing with my life? Instead of writing or going to school, I was sitting in front of a computer screen rearranging pictures of trips that I took in the past, hoping that someone would like them. Instead of losing weight and exercising I was trying to say something snarky enough to get me a like or perhaps even a poke. Instead of spending time with my wife or making real life friends, I was stuck in the past, with people who I probably had nothing in common with now that high school had been over for about a decade. In short, I realized that I was, through Facebook, becoming more of what I perceived to be a loser. And I hated it!

What was I to do then? I could quit Facebook, but that was a silly idea. What then would I do with my time? I was so busy with work and Facebook was such a nice little diversion for me when I got home. I had no addiction, I told myself. I only spent about 2-3 hours a day on Facebook. And even though I had it open on a browser tab whenever I was on the internet, it did not mean that I was actively using the site. And I knew people who used it more than I did, and they said they were not addicted. And if they said they were not addicted, it must be the truth right?

Wrong! I started to wonder, how much could I get done in a couple of hours a day? Could I actually do something meaningful in that time? Sure, I was exhausted after coming home from a tough day at work, but did that give me an excuse to let my life come to a halt? Did I truly want more out of life, or was I happy being a pawn? I knew I wanted more out of life, but it seemed too hard. To give up Facebook would mean to give up all my friends and loved ones. It would mean to enter the world all alone. To leave Facebook would mean saying “goodbye.” And I have never been too good with goodbyes.

Sometimes we must say goodbye, however, in order to start fresh. Saying goodbye to Facebook meant saying hello to a new life. That was somewhat exciting. I have always liked change, and giving up Facebook and putting the time I spent on Facebook towards something else really made my heart race. What would I do with all this new found time? Would I create a Twitter account? I have not been on Myspace for a long time.

No, if you give up one addiction, you can not replace it with another. Unless, of course, it's a healthy addiction. I decided that, instead of using Facebook, maybe I should focus on school. Maybe I should write more. Maybe I should create a blog or save up some money and travel. There were books I wanted to read. There was body mass I wanted to get rid of. I could really improve myself without Facebook, I thought. But, then, who would I show my improvements off to?

Do you struggle with Facebook addiction?  Do you want help quitting?  Do you feel like your life has stagnated since you made yourself a Facebook profile?  If you have a story to share, please share it in the comments below.