|We have always wanted more. Now it is easier than ever to have it.|
Our grabbing hands do not stop at material possessions. We want to have a firm grasp on the past. We want to document and save every small event that has happened in our lives. We have computer hard drives loaded with images, documents, and videos that we may never even set our eyes on again.
We also save things out of fear of the future. In our closets we save everything that we can with the idea that we may need something again someday. I have known people who save documents for decades because they may one day need to show that seven year old phone bill as proof that it has been paid. There it sits, in a stack of fifty pounds of random papers.
This madness has also extended to (a)social media. We have this idea that we need to hold onto acquaintances and friends, old classmates from high school and college, people we worked with over the years, and those who we would have, otherwise, never spoke to again. For millennia when life changed, people moved on, and oftentimes people would never see or speak to each other again. This was normal. It is not natural to hold onto hundreds of people. We do not have the time to maintain that many friendships. Our minds are not wired to have relationships with hundreds of people in such a way. Yet, we feel that we need to hold onto as many people as possible. We feel that we will regret giving up old acquaintances and friends and we fear that we may never see or hear from them again.
|Facebook takes advantage of the fear of being missed or losing a connection.|
Facebook knows that people fear this and they take advantage of this fear. When you go to deactivate your profile, there is a list of people with their names saying "___ will miss you." Facebook than demands a reason for leaving, as if you have to answer to it for your choice of leaving the website (when you do leave, please put "www.facebookdetox.com" as your reason). You should not give into this fear. It is natural to have a smaller, more intimate, group of close friends. It is natural to have a manageable amount of people you speak to. Life is about balance, and having too many of one thing is often detrimental to us. Our minds do not work well with extremes. Having five hundred friends on Facebook, each screaming their views, thoughts, and extreme emotions is not healthy for us to read. We can not keep up with that many people, nor should we try to. Doing so puts you spending far too much time on Facebook, and even a few minutes is too much.
There is a movement where people have begun to give up owning too many things or living in large homes. This movement is focused on living in small spaces and simplifying life. I have found, myself, that this is a very healthy way to go through life. You do not need to sell your home and move into a 300 square foot home, however, simplifying life is something that works well for our brains. We, as a society, waste so much, including time. Facebook is by far the larges timewaster that I have ever come across in my life. The world is literally screenlocked, looking at their phones every moment, waiting for someone to post something. The Facebook app lets the user know just when someone likes their post or when someone replies. Immediately the user grabs their phone and checks to see what was said. Entire days go on like this. Life passes. Opportunities pass and many wonder where their time went.