Tuesday, June 9, 2015

Instagram: An Obsession

Lately, Instagram was an obsession of mine.  Much like Facebook has been in the past.  I unplugged for a couple of weeks and people wondered where I went.  I posted again and felt empty. I remembered the time I spent on the site, my wife saying "you spend a lot of time on Instagram" and realizing that she was right.  I had about 670 followers and about 450 pictures on one account (photos of my travels around the world).   The other was for friends and family.  I feel quite disgusting talking about it.  Sharing my dark secrets with the world.  This is was my shame.

Today I deleted my accounts.  It was hard, but I did it.  Unlike Facebook, it seems that Instagram deletes your account right away.  Everything goes "poof" quickly.  Part of me did not want to let go - I liked Instagram a lot more than Facebook.  But in the end, it was a worthless pursuit.  A selfish pursuit.  An empty pursuit.  Gathering likes, hoping to get followers, and spending hours away from the same family members I was posting about.  Instead of learning a new language or spending time with family, I was face in phone, trying to please my ego.

I deleted it.  It's gone!

From my journal, in which I wrote in more detail about leaving Instagram:

From now on I am going to live for myself and my family.  No more living to share my moments with others.  That is a bad trait that has become the world’s obsession.  Why waste time taking a picture and wondering what others will think of it?  Why waste time taking a picture and wondering how others will view your life?  Why should we care so much?  Why should we feel that we need to validate ourselves to others?  Do I really need to impress others with my life?  I think that it is pointless.  It is one thing to create memories and share those memories online, but it is another to think that others should care about our lives and that our lives are so wonderful that others will want to follow them.  My life is not that great - and nobodies is.  Movie stars, music stars, business people, their lives are not worth being obsessed over.  To think that others should obsess over me is vanity and vain.  
We only have one life to live.  Why spend so much time thinking about and obsessing over the past instead of making new memories?  Why spend our time, face in phone, hoping that people will notice us?  Looking back, it was all a huge waste, and one that I am glad to put behind me.

Facebook... gone
Instagram... gone

The world of (a)social media will not control my life.  Will it control yours?


  1. Have you managed to stay away? I deactivated my facebook a long time ago, but Instagram is so hard to leave.

    1. I have not been quite successful due to pressure from family to show pictures of my daughter growing up. When I tried to send pictures to family's email they were bounced back to me and I figured Instagram is the easiest place to post them. I created another Instagram with some strict limits: I would only post pictures of my daughter and put no captions. I spend maybe 10 seconds a day doing so in order that I do not get sucked into wanting to use it. I no longer post pictures of vacations, travel, or other things as I used to. I also made the account private and no longer seek followers. My biggest time waste on that site was following others and fishing for followers. It was a huge waste of time.

      What is annoying is that the person who really pushed me to go back onto Instagram has ignored it since I started sharing pictures of my daughter. I created it so this person would be able to see her growing up and yet she refuses to follow it now. This goes to show that (a)social media is full of drama and confirms why I do not like it. I would have deleted the profile again, but found a few other family members of mine are enjoying it (the ones who did not push me to go back, which is kind of ironic).

    2. I managed to finally hit the delete on Instagram today. My friends have accused me of being a neo-Luddite for eschewing social media. Maybe I am.

    3. I like sharing pics with my family too and sometimes the files are so big that emailing them is nearly impossible. I detest (a)social media (like you say) yet my family of origin lives in Mexico, i'm the only one of my siblings who has kids and my mom just needs to see the pics of her grand kids often...so i got a Shutterfly.com account, and I LOVE IT! It is private, nobody has access to the pics i upload unless i email someone the link to a particular album. It is like "invite only". It also works as a storage for my pics and it's free. You can organize pics by album. I'd hate for my kid's pics to be floating around on the internet, so i only trust Shutterfly. Have had it for over 3 years now and the cherry on top is that if at some point i want to order a personalized gift for my mom or relatives i can order it from their website. You can use the pics you have stored there, pick one or a few and have them printed on a mug, t-shirt, an album. They have specials year round. For someone as private as i am, especially when it comes to the pics of my kiddos, Shutterfly is the place to store and share pics to the people that really matter. No need to follow anyone, nobody follows you, no unwanted and unnecessary exposure. I highly recommend it! BTW love your blog! I am proudly (a)social media free! You oughta start the (a)social media free challenge :b

  2. Today I deleted my accounts. It was hard, but I did it. Unlike Facebook, it seems that Instagram deletes your account right away. Everything goes "poof" quickly. http://DripFollowers.com/buy-instagam-followers

    1. It's not a bad thing to be. Maybe they have a problem and are projecting their weakness on to you.