If there is one thing that Facebook is good at, it is assisting a person in proclaiming how wonderful they are. Ego is at the center of Facebook, and for many, ego has taken a life of its own.
Facebook has become a way to befriend people from the past and then let them know just how great our lives are. We try to prove that we are worth more than others by parading our life and so-called accomplishments in front of those who will listen. Yet, who is listening? Who is going to jump through the screen and pat you on the back? Perhaps you are talking to yourself? Perhaps your pride is starting to take on its own existence.
How wonderful are you if you are addicted to (a)social media? If you live your life through Facebook, how great is it? Think about that for a bit. You may list ways in which you are great, but the fact of the matter is, when you are listing how wonderful you are, you are not doing anything productive. You are not improving yourself. You are not doing anything worthy of being called "great." Instead, you are merely bragging to the world, trying to puff yourself up and trying to look better than everyone else. Furthermore, you are rubbing your most-likely exaggerated achievements in the faces of those who may be going through hard times. How wonderful art thou!
Recently I saw a very large fight between some of my family members on Facebook over politics and religion (what else, right?) and could not help but see the sheer amount of time being wasted arguing over such things on the internet. In the end, the comments got out of control and both parties went to their own walls to proclaim how they were right and the other was wrong. Facebook, as usual, was used as a mechanism to draw people away from each other and destroy relationships. As the fight progressed, one person claimed that another person was "a liberal" and, in response, that person felt the need to write her life story, chock full of every accomplishment she has made in her life. Of course, the list was quite long and reading it gave me quite the headache. It was far too wordy, about working for nothing, dual masters degrees, and helping the homeless with shelter in the two houses that this person owned by her own sweat and blood. After a mental golf clap, I realized that it was just another way to show pride, and to show how great one perceives themselves to be. It is great to do things for others, and to achieve things. It is not so great to go on Facebook and brag about them, puff yourself up about it, and use it as a weapon to make yourself seem better than other people. And, one thing that I noticed, this woman is on Facebook a lot!
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Is time spent on Facebook worthy of feeling good about? If you are bragging about your life behind a computer, perhaps you do not have much to brag about. And, what ever happened to giving thanks for the things that one does have? Facebook culture has turned into a person doing something and then running to Facebook to show it off. It's like what young children do, yet on Facebook it is "adults" that are doing it. No wonder there is so much dissatisfaction among many in our "connected" generation. Comparing ourselves to others, hoping to be noticed for what we say and do on the internet, and feeling that we need to prove ourselves on Facebook does nothing positive for the mind. It affects a person. It hurts a person. It is addictive, and there has to come a time when a person stands up and says, "ENOUGH!"
Are you sick of the constant bragging that takes place on Facebook? Do you think that ego and pride has run amok on this website? Do you feel good knowing that a few people are raking in billions of dollars while you are trying to prove your life is something to be envied, and they are laughing all the way to the bank? What are you really on Facebook for? Isn't it time to get away from the site and make a fresh break for it? I think now is a great time to leave Pridebook, or if you prefer, Bragbook. I think there is no better time than the present. Shut it down and walk away. There's no reason for you to have to compare your life with those behind the screen. You have your own life to live, and trust me, it is worth living!
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