Saturday, November 14, 2015

The Holidays and Christmas on Facebook: Now is The Best Time to Leave


The holidays are approaching.  This is going to be a time for you to compare your life and your achievements with every acquaintance that you have known since middle school.  It’s also a good time to see where in the world it is snowing, as if it has never snowed before.  It is a time that many will spend ignoring others while pretending that they are having the best season of their lives.  Sadly, most are living a fantasy, viewing the world through Facebook-colored lenses.

About a decade ago, people were less likely to spend their holidays on their phones and on (a)social media, but times have changed.  Recently I pointed out how one in seven people log onto Facebook every day.  Chances are, when you are gathered around the Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner table, someone there is going to be on Facebook.  And, chances are, the dinner will be lit up by the flash of cameras taking pictures to share the feast on Instagram and Facebook.  Will you be tweeting about the gravy?  Will you share with the world just how moist your Butterball Turkey was?  How quickly will you upload those pictures?  Will it be during the prayer, or do you have the self control to wait until someone is passing you the corn? 

THIS IS THE BEST TIME TO GET OFF FACEBOOK 

The holidays are the BEST TIME of year to get rid of Facebook.  You might consider focusing on enjoying the time with family and friends and trying to move away from consumerism and trying to compare yourself with others during this festive period.  Why spend your time inundated with thoughts about not being good enough as others or wanting to prove yourself on the internet?  Why waste your time being thrusted into political debates or hearing about news that only brings you down and makes you feel miserable.  It’s great that uncle Tommy is a born again armchair vegan or that your sister’s boyfriends father is the CEO of a company that sells pirated DVDs.  And how many times do you really need to feel special about reading words upside down and backwards?  We get it, only one in ten people have that skill… and they are all on Facebook!

When your family asks you why you are not taking pictures of the wishbone this year, tell them that you are taking a break from Facebook.  Tell them that you are not updating Twitter.  Tell them that Instagram is off your radar for a while.  Let the family know that you are celebrating the holidays with your children and family, not with the guy who you met at Chuck E Cheese, who somehow contacted you and added you on Facebook.  Tell them that you would rather have a quiet Christmas like you remember it being years ago.  Let your loved ones know that Christmas is a time for family, for giving thanks, and NOT for Facebook.  Tell them that you are on vacation from (a)social media, and let them know that you may never be back.  

YOU ARE NOT MISSING OUT ON A THING!

You are truly not missing out.  If anything, everyone who is not enjoying the moment, but rather, living for Facebook, are the ones who are going to miss the special time of year that is approaching.  Those who are dying for the moment when they can upload thirty pictures of the tanembaum are the ones missing out.  Instead of taking a bazillion pictures for Facebook, in the hopes that they get noticed, take the pictures to show your children and to look back on yourselfThis time of year is for you and your family, not for your Pridebook.  


How are you spending the next couple of holidays?  Glued to Facebook, or with your family and friends?  Now is a great time to quit Facebook.

14 comments:

  1. Had an early Thanksgiving gathering with relatives. Instead of enjoying our time together, the mom-in-law spent a lot of time taking multitudinous pictures of her grandchild and uploading to Facebook. But that wasn't the end
    Each time she also gave us a play by play as the likes and comments came in. Sadly we see her only a few days a year because she moved out of state with her new husband, and we didn't even really have a visit. We just watched her use Facebook. But if you were an outsider looking at her profile, you'd think we were the closest, happiest family and we were having the time of our lives.

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    1. This_is_sad. I'm sorry. What a sad state of affairs. I am trying…with all of my might…to feel empathy for your mother in law. Instead, what I am feeling…is pity. And anger, that she would rather brag to her FB friends then spend quality time with her loved ones.

      Seriously, I am sad for our future as humans with thoughts and feelings. None of this bodes well but perhaps I am just showing my age.

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  2. I removed my Facebook app for this reason. I was addicted and not afraid to admit I was. After a few hours, I put the app back on, and was very disappointed in myself and also realized, I am not missing out on anything at all. This was today. I look forward to spending the holidays, social media free, and the pictures I do take, will be shared with family vis text, and not tagged on Facebook. I am going to try and go to the end of the year, and ultimately, get my pictures off of there, and deactivate, possibly delete my account, after the first of the year. The people that mean the most to me have my number and can call me whenever. My family, friends and brother masons, are the important people to me, and can get a hold of me easily. It may sound bad, but the rest are just noise. It is a time for family and friends in person, so I agree, the time to get off of Facebook is now.

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    1. Excellent Jason, I applaud you. You are so right. Good work. I am two days Facebook free and am feeling withdrawal symptoms. It is FOMO rearing it's ugly head. Best of luck to you and me!

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    2. You hit the nail on the head by calling the rest "noise."

      You probably have your reasons, but why not get rid of that profile before January 1st? By doing that 2016 would begin as a clean slate.

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  3. Thank you! I often deactivate my account, & come back when things calm down. This time, FB did not offer me a "I'll decide when to come back" option - it gave 1 day to 28 days, so I chose 28 days for automatic renewal. No more option there for indefinite.

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    1. Its sad how FB is trying to control people! I remember when you could deactivate for how ever long you wanted to now they don't let you have that choice,They could at least give you 3 to 6 months that's more reasonable, but then they cant control you that well to their pleasure! After today I'm deleted for 6 days waiting for the full 14 days to end it for good! They want you not to end it that's why they try and control you thinking you'll come back before the 14 days are up it's a sort of cruel game they play almost as if they are laughing at it! I cant wait till I'm free of all their bull....you fill in the rest!!!

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  4. I am looking at Facebook on Christmas. And feeling the pressure of having to respond to so many posts when I just want to relax and "be". Be a human being BEFORE Facebook and other social media arrived and changed the way we live.

    I am hopeful the pendulum will swing back but I am afraid the genie is out of the bottle. We have all become prisoners of Facebook.

    I am letting go of Facebook's clutches today and for the New Year. I will NOT live my life according to the way Facebook tells me I must. I don't WANT to be "connected" to hundreds, thousands of people and want to peer into the lives of people I haven't seen in 35 years. I don't WANT to have to "like" all my "friends" photos and posts in order to keep the peace with them in real life. I don't WANT to have to log in daily to "follow" hundreds of people doing mundane tasks in their daily lives.

    I don't want to feel badly or less than, or have to compare myself to others.

    I don't want to agonize over my profile photo and after I post one, have to look back to see who "liked" it and feel what all the "likes" do to my ego and self-esteem.

    I don't want to witness middle-aged narcissists living their life on Facebook.

    I am going to live the way I lived, before social media took over the way human beings communicate. That means, REAL life communication and quality relationships with close family and friends.

    Happy New Year, everyone.

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    1. And Happy New Year to You!!! Loved your comment!!! I feel the same way I'm tired of people expecting me to click likes on all their posts for what? I don't even agree with a lot of them and I feel it is a big waste of my precious time!! What good is FB even the news stories are mostly depressing!There are more fun ways to have fun if that's what you are looking for, More healthy and rewarding ways with real people not the fake connected way face book offers!!!

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    2. Thank you! Glad you liked it. I must confess I just logged in, looked around and came away feeling badly. I guess I'm a glutton for punishment. It is clear that for me, and I can only speak for myself, Facebook is a negative force. I don't feel happy after I log in there. I started thinking there was something WRONG with ME that I don't want to participate in the "togetherness". I started feeling badly that I don't want to change my profile photo, and state my New Years resolutions, and I won't want to brag about how incredible 2015 was for me, and list my various accomplishments and how "blessed" I am.

      Yeccccchhh! That's how I feel when other people do this. Am I just a hopeless curmudgeon?

      I also started wondering why everyone else, a lot of people that I DO like a lot in real life who are on there all day, why are they also not sick of it? Why are they spending their days "liking" posts, commenting on mundane posts, instead of living their life? Why do they not "get" how Facebook is controlling them?

      One may say (my boyfriend, for instance) that I am using Facebook Detox as a substitute for Facebook and I have to say I've been wondering about that. He's not on Facebook. He was for a time, but he is no longer.

      I know I can live without Facebook, I really want to. I am feeling badly about not being able to completely delete it. I feel that socially I will suffer, and that I will "miss out".

      It's OK, this feeling will pass!

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    3. Hi again it's funny how I logged on to this site again today and red your reply! That was great! I know how you feel I've gone back to face book time after time thinking it would somehow be a better experience but it failed every time and I couldn't stand the hog wash any longer too much nonsense to have to be involved in! And some people use it as a way to hurt others if you have some kind of misunderstanding! Have you red the (using face book as a weapon?) or the (one year without face book?)even the (face book makes you miserable) Blogs? They are also very good to read!! Your not alone in how you feel about FB the people still on it are blind to it!! Hope they wake up someday and see just how bad it can and most likely will someday make them feel too! Oh and don't feel bad that your using this site to help you stay away from FB I do the same and it really helps to get these feelings out! It's very healing!!!

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    4. yo estoy bien con facebook pero no me hago lavar la mente como a esos insanos asesinos mal nacidos y que abrasan una religion nociva para ellos mismosesa gente fanatica de isis

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  5. Facebook is a time suck, and if you think about it, you are selling yourself cheap, only to give or information to someone else to make millions off of you. It's a sham, and if I do use social media, it is mostly Snapchat, and only because I do not feel obligated to share every little thing that I do. I share pics to people individually who it pertains to, and nobody else. Thank you for your post.

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  6. Great post! Really insightful. I have not monetized by blog in any way, I didn’t even know where to begin. but you’ve given some helpful tips.

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